Going crazy while you wait to hear back from the schools you applied to? Essay Coach Justin Marshall has just the medicine you need.

There's always a huge sense of joy and accomplishment the moment you submit your last application to your last school. The dreaded application process is over! Time to go out and celebrate with a few drinks and a few friends! (For the record, I believe the former is more important than the latter, but that's me).

Just one word of advice: Brace yourself for the next day. Even if you don't drink, you're going to feel something akin to a hangover. That's because the joy of completing your applications invariably gives way to the hardest part of the application process: the waiting game.

I know all too well how difficult the waiting game is.  I experienced it firsthand years ago when I applied to MFA programs. Every day seems to last an eternity.  Your body begins to ooze adrenaline every time you merely glance at your inbox. And it gets worse with each passing day.

If pharmaceutical companies could find a pill for ARAS (Application Response Anxiety Syndrome), I guarantee it would sell like hot cakes. But until such a pill is available, you're just going to have to cope with the waiting game. Here's how:

First, realize why the waiting game is so hard: You have no power. You were in the driver's seat of your candidacy for many weeks (if not months), and now you're a blindfolded passenger. Your fate is in the hands of others. Is it terrifying? You betcha. So acknowledge that you are powerless, and allow yourself to be nervous.  Bottling up your feelings won't help.

Next, replace your sense of powerlessness with action.
Rather than focusing on the one thing you can't control, throw yourself into something you can. If you are a runner, start training for a half-marathon. If you've always wanted to learn how to play guitar, start taking weekly lessons.  Whatever it is, set yourself manageable goals and stay focused on them. If you think you don't have any time, think again---you managed to complete your grad-school application, didn't you? Now all that essay writing time is free time.  Even if it's tough to work in a cooking class after work, the peace of mind you receive from achieving something (instead of waiting for something) makes it well worth the effort.

Finally: The best way to stop feeling helpless is to help others. So join a non-profit organization, or increase your participation in one you're already a member of. Yes, I know this one sounds obnoxiously "shiny happy people." But it works. And it has an added, strategic benefit: If you don't get in to the school of your dreams, you're already adding or enhancing an extracurricular activity that will make your candidacy that much more powerful next year.

The waiting game is almost never any fun. But once you realize that you're the one who gets to set the rules, you'll find that it's a game you can win.