By Evan Forster, photo by Alan Light


Question: Isn’t spring of senior year party time?  

Answer: No Prince, this is not 1999!

Recently—and hardly for the first time—I received a phone call from a mom who went from excited to panic when her daughter was accepted early to college. In this case, I’m talking Vanderbilt.

Let’s back up just a little.  Her daughter, Felicia, was no clear admit; she had some difficult times in 9th and 10th grades, but she pulled it together as the semesters went on so it wasn’t an outrageous idea to apply early to Vandy—her number one choice. When she got that fat acceptance packet, we all did the happy dance. And then, a day later, I got the following call from her mom:  

“What if Felicia doesn’t keep her grades up this spring? I’m worried she’s not keeping her grades up."

Let me answer that in simple terms by showing you the letter I sent to all of my college candidates and their families:

Dear Felicia,

I know it’s very exciting to know you’re going to Vanderbilt this fall! You worked your ass off and got in, and the crew at Forster-Thomas is incredibly proud of you.

BUT it’s not over yet. The admissions office is keeping track of what you’re doing, and there was some fine print in your acceptance letter: Your acceptance is contingent upon your continuing high grades and activities. If you suddenly make straight Bs or (god forbid) worse, you are putting your acceptance in jeopardy! We’ve actually seen this happen before, where an acceptance was revoked or someone was put on probation before they even got to school. You don’t want that to be you.

So, keep those grades up, and keep being the marvelous person who we enjoyed working so much with! We want to know what’s going on with you for the rest of the year, and beyond! We are so proud of you and what you’ve accomplished, and working with you has been AMAZING. 

And be prepared: In the fall, your whole life is going to change—and you’re going to LOVE IT. 

Please let me know you got this email, and keep us in the loop with any questions.

Best,

Auntie Evan

This advice about keeping your grades up affects you not only if you applied early, but also to those of you who are still waiting on that fat envelope. Ignore this advice at your own peril. You certainly don’t want any college saying “Bye Felicia!”